Always a wife

Wife defined as a help meet, lover, friend, home maker, peace to a storm, calm to a rage, problem solver, nurturer. December 13, 2017, I woke up a wife and cried myself to sleep as a widow.

January 2000, my late husband and I began to date as a result of courting for a short period of time. We dated until June 2007 and then we were married. We moved into our home September 2007 and life as we knew it sparked ups and downs and turnarounds. Just as with many things there was a lot of growing pains and then smooth sailing. So, as you can see I’ve always been a wife, even as a girlfriend, I had wife tendencies. What does that mean? I wanted him, I loved him, I cared for him, I sacrificed for him, I was comfortable with him, it was a natural connection, it was a decision for better or for worse.

I was sitting here yesterday and said to myself, “I’m still a wife.” I know that sounds crazy, but I have been called to marriage. Believe it or not, it isn’t only because I don’t want to burn. Hahaha, for those of you who listened to Pastor Orr’s message about singleness. I honestly have so much to share with a companion and there is so much I have to learn from a companion.

I am still a wife, I still have a lot to offer, I still have so much love to give. I still have so much nurturing and caring to do. I am still a wife and honestly after October 2019, I woke up and realized that I am worthy of another shot at sharing my world with someone truly special. I anticipate the moment that God gives me solely to my soul mate, yes soul mate. I believe that sprits connect. I believe in intuition and when you know, you just know. If you knew the beginning stages of how Cleo, my late husband and I connected then you’d understand what I mean. I will write about that at some point. I believe in divine appointments. So, yes, I am still a wife and I will continue to carry myself as such (minus the sex, lol).

The days seems long throughout this process. Sometimes it seems like an endless road. I am however focused on becoming a better me which helps me become a better wife. The race isn’t given to the swift, but to the one who endures until the end. Scripture says, “He that findeth a wife, findeth a good thing.” One thing I have never doubted is being a good thing. Wherever he may be, he will be a blessed man. So, again, yes, I am still a wife. I am delighted to be just that. So much love to you all!

“When you come to the understanding that everything you want can be created through your mind, through the use of right thinking, which is simply clear thinking, you come to the realization that only you can give yourself what you want.”
-Dr. Robert Anthony

There is always something to do!

I remember when I was on bed rest thinking, “Sheesh, I am missing out on all of my friends’ festivities.” I have always been the one to accept the invitation, especially before having my girls. Showing up for friends and love one shows a great deal of love in action. Family and community are so important and I have learned that more since I have been a widow since December 2017. You truly reap what you sow. Honestly, I love being around positive vibes and I am thrilled to be a part of a fun party. So truly, it is easy to accept the invitation. In doing so, I have been blessed by the best circle of love ones.

Fast forward the clock, two little girls later, there is STILL so much to do. Even during the pandemic, I find myself attending zoom meetings for work and pleasure each and everyday. As we learn to live and transition back into person to person contact, there is STILL much to do. To think in 2010, I thought I missed out of everything and nothing else would happen once I was released from bed rest. Little did I know my agenda would lengthen because I’d have an added tribe, a mommy tribe.

So I will say enjoy the present, enjoy the journey, don’t miss the moment. There is ALWAYS something to do. Evolution is all around us. There will forever be conferences, concerts, parties, play dates, GNOs, self care time, quiet time, and so much more. As always, live in the moment, love with all of your heart, and laugh until your belly aches. So much love to you all.

Let me introduce myself

When I was a little girl, I’d always say I would become a teacher or an actress. You wonder why? Perhaps you think, I love helping others and I am theatrical. Well, let’s just say as a little girl I had strong leadership skills better known as bossy by my friends.

My secondary education encompasses time spent at Whitehaven High graduating in the second to none class of 2002. Shortly, after my high school graduation, I attended Austin Peay State University. Homesickness took over and I transferred to the University of Memphis after the first semester, one of my biggest regrets. Money can’t buy memories and I regret everyday making that permanent decision to transfer schools and reside at home instead of the dorm. Needless to say, I completed and furthered my education at Freed-Hardeman University earning a Master’s degree in Education.

My career path included working in outreach recruiting first generation high school students to summer Math/Science collegiate programs. I had such a passion for that career, as I was a first generation student with a vast understanding of cultural exposure and learning from others’ differences, which makes the world more interesting and a wide open classroom. Simultaneously, I had been dating my high school sweetheart turned husBAE since the age of 15. To our union we bore two gorgeous and fierce little girls.

My second career included working with Shelby County Schools as a professional school counselor, but that career was short lived for countless reasons. Prayerfully, I asked the Lord to remove me from the district. I desired greater, more freedom and an environment that allowed me to fulfill my purpose without persecution and anxiety filled days and nights. I was led to the financial services industry, where I currently serve as a recruiter, my first love. This profession allows me to help families set and reach their goals while accomplishing countless personal ambitions. Life has been filled with many unexpectancies, but there’s a valid reason for most of them.

A few fun facts about me include;

  1. Dancing is my happy place.
  2. I founded a foundation in memory of my awesome husband.
  3. Great conversations will keep me around.
  4. Outreach is profound and therapeutic.

My vow is to use my voice, even if it shakes. The purpose of my blog is to share my testimonies, stories, laughs, highs, lows, and buffalos with the world because I believe we all can gain insight on how to navigate life peacefully and happily.