J.E.N.N.I.F.E.R.

Jesus knew what we needed when He gave us a sacrificing mother who would teach us selflessness, the golden rule, unconditional love and determination.

Everything we have ever decided to do in our lives, our mother has supported personally and shared it with her circle. She is also the one who wholehearted believes in us and cheers us on to follow our dreams.

Never give up, keep the faith, don’t stop believing is what is always fed into our spirits.

Never stop providing for us and our children.

In this life, our mom has given us a foundation, taught us faith, listened to our plans, supported our goals, sacrificed, loved us through our bad, celebrated our successes and shouts it to the world.

Forgiven us and forbidden us from doing what is wrong is how our mom prevents us from destruction and blocking our blessings.

Endurance and encouragement has always been given by our mom

Reminded us of who we are and whose we are.

Jennifer, today and always, Mario and I leave you without a shadow of a doubt. Thank you for being a friend, mom, a voice, a giver, a listener, a helper. You are appreciated. We salute you!

Me, my mom and my brother

Happy Mother’s Day to moms all over the world!

Lights. Camera. Action.

A girl who knows where she is going. A girl who knows how to entertain herself. A girl who loves learning. A girl who is kind and caring. A girl who is colorful and full of bliss. My little spunky, Rylee is the epitome of drama and creativity. She is introverted, she is full of fun, loves fashion, make-up, nail polish, jewelry making, her mommy and big sissy.

My maternal grandmother believed children should have at least one sibling. Prior to a conversation with her, my husband and I had decided to no longer have any more children due to my many complications during pregnancy. My grandmother made several valid points, so my husband and I took what she’d said into consideration. June 2015, one year after she passed away, Rylee was born. She was born on my paternal grandmother’s birthday and she shares my maternal grandmother’s middle name. It is believed that Rylee has been imparted with many of their qualities. She is curious, analytical, intuitive, a forward thinker, observant, full of light, endearing, loving, family oriented, theatrical, and so much more.

Oftentimes, I contemplate the blessing she has been to my oldest daughter and I. She brings so much value and conscientiousness to our family. Rylee inspires those around to live an exhilarating life. Be true to who you are, make music, dance, wake up and dress up. On her worst day, she looks her best. She loves wearing dresses and high heels shoes. Her zest for life is infectious.

There’s a saying that expresses we only live once. Contrary to what some believe, others debate that we live everyday. I am of the thought that every day we wake up, we are given the opportunity to live. What are you doing with the time allotted? What have you been procrastinating about? What is on your vision board? What is your life’s theme? Are you always ready so you do not have to get ready? Ready for what? The chance that you have been praying for, awaiting, planning for. The lights are on. The camera is focused. It’s time to take action.

There is a Rainbow After the Storm

Strong. Smart. Gorgeous. Opinionated. Vocal. Integrity. Loyal. Extroverted. Lover of life. Athletic. Determined. Hard worker. Persistent.

July 2008, my family and I celebrated the holiday traditionally at my grandma’s home. My cousin mistakingly, kept bumping into my chest and it caused so much pain. The last time she did so, she said I was pregnant. I never thought that could be true because my husband and I had not planned to be parents any time soon. We had only been married a year and our plan was to wait at the minimum five years. The next day I took a pregnancy test and, you guessed it, POSITIVE! I was pregnant. My husband and I were overwhelmed with so much joy. Throughout my first two trimesters I had extremely severe morning sickness. I’d like to call it morning, noon and evening sickness. I felt horrible, thankfully during the summer months, we worked from the office rather than the school because I seldom wore professional attire, neatly arranged my braids and let’s not forget how tardy I was EVERYDAY. I was miserable, hahahaha. Time progressed, my son was developing healthy, my symptoms became bearable and excited could not describe what we felt as we anticipated the arrival of Caleb Thaddues Hudson who was due February 26, 2009.

Sadly, October 2008, while at East High School, where I had worked, what was a normal day turned into an agonizing life memory. I began to feel contractions at 19 weeks pregnant. The administrative secretary rushed me to the hospital where I later loss our son. Hurt. Frustrated. Despair. Insecure. Sad. Mad. I was filled with grief. We had no idea how that had happened. We were left without an explanation. We attempted again December 2008 and you will not believe at 16 weeks pregnant, April 16, 2009, our son Chase Alexander Hudson, was stillborn. Whew, JESUS!!!!! I had already changed my doctor since there was NO clear reason why I had loss my first son from my previous doctor. Once we discovered, it’s solely my body, we were lost for words! Depressed. Reticent. Curious as to why and how does this continue to happen, my husband and I prayed and sought an explanation. In 2010, the Lord used two doctors within the clinic who mentally helped us more so than anything, have a healthy and oh so gorgeous little rainbow baby.

The moment I placed my eyes on Chance, I freely praised God for the gift He had given us. She was and remains everything and more. I could not have been given a better baby girl. My heart was full and daily when I think about how she belongs to me, I am undoubtedly, blessed and proud. God really did an incredible thing when He created my oldest daughter.

Chance Imani Hudson, a little socialite, preteen of integrity, helpful, full of life, strong-willed, courageous, lover of Jesus Christ, a therapist, is our rainbow after the storm. Chance loves making TikTok videos, baking, lacrosse, soccer, volleyball, tennis, cross country, gymnastics, girl time with her baby sister and her friends. She enjoys family gatherings, watching movies, her alone time, attending school, and doing her nails. Her personality is chatty and easy going. She is a private person. She keeps me in check. Hahahaha, she never says, OKAY. She always negotiates. In her opinion, she always has a better idea. Whew, Chile!!!!!! She possesses a mammoth amount of energy and never wants the party to end. She loves love. She is a meticulous shopper. She understands the concept of working hard and playing hard. She is a confident little girl who will wear two different patterns and be the loudest in the room. It tickles me because I am watching how she focuses so much on how time is spent, rather than what she looks like while it’s spent. Her focus is always internal, how it makes her feel. She is self-assured.

Chance will wear jeans, a pullover, a beautiful hairstyle, manicured nails and be equipped with all of the her Apple products. Chance inspires me to be comfortable in the skin that I am in, she shows me that weird is cool and if we were all the same the world would be boring. People will accept you as you are or leave you alone and that is okay. Do not shrink who you are to fit in. The way she lives her life reminds me not to sweat the small stuff. Her life screams, “Be who you are!”

Life has its ups, downs and turn arounds. There will be obstacles. There will be hills to climb, mountains to move. My baby’s life is an example of how valid struggles are and how persistence and prayer pays off. As a result of having Chance as a daughter I am awarded the life experience to ride this roller coaster of life with this beautiful, spirited little leader. As she often tells me, “ Mom, worry about yourself.” In other words, concern myself with what makes me secure and free. Live life without any regrets. Set your own standards. Be kind. Live out your morals taught by love ones. Follow the golden rule. Live hope. Love truly. Laugh aloud. Indeed, this rainbow serves as an infinite reminder that dreams come true. Chance, is our dream come true. I’m so glad to have her. There’s a rainbow, after the storm. Don’t you dare give up! Chance is a reminder of what is worth fighting for, no matter how far fetched it seems. No matter how impossible, it feels. Don’t you dare stop trying! So much love to you all!

Beautiful girl, you’re strong, you’re smart, you can do hard things!

The Law of Attraction

The law of attraction is a philosophy that says you possess what you profess. If you think positive then positive things will happen. When you think negatively then negative things will happen. My car was located on the church parking lot for two weeks. I was extremely busy and did not make arrangements to pick it up. My mom’s lunch break did not collaborate with my schedule and so I continued to procrastinate picking up my car from the parking lot. I contemplated who could take me to get my car at another time, but never took the time to definitely make it priority because I had so many obligations.

Tuesday morning, I declared I would get my car. My plan was to walk to the church’s parking lot to pick up my car because my mom had something important to do during her break time. Once I dropped my daughters off at school, I arrived home and before I decided to take care of some necessary business, I began to walk to get my car. As I was walking, I called a friend who lives a little bit over a mile from me. I told her I was walking to her home and I needed her to take me to the church’s parking lot. She chuckled and asked if I were walking seriously. I replied and said I was. She insisted on coming to get me and I refused. As I continued my walk, I encountered my neighbor’s sister who had stopped me to say thanks for a kind deed I’d shown towards her. We began to talk and before we ended our conversation I informed her that I was walking to my friend’s home so she could take me to pick up my car. You guessed it, she offered to drive me to pick up my car. I showed my appreciation and rejected. Once I finished my conversation with her, I continued my walk and I began to contemplate on the law of attraction. Once you profess a thing, you will possess that thing. There is power in the tongue. The Bible tells us that whatever we speak in our heart is what we possess. Once we add action to what we think, manifestation transpires. Move from thinking to acting.

The law of attraction is a philosophy that says you possess what you profess.

The practice of professing what you possess is full of motion. It sets things into action. Be ready to receive once you speak it. When I said I was going to pick up my car, there were doors opened to help me reach the goal, but I had a plan and it was executed. It was a matter of moments when I began to execute that positivity attracted my plan. I professed that I would pick up my car. I planned my strategy. I positioned myself to received. Blessings came towards me. I was presented with choices to help me fulfill my plan. When there is a decision made, when a plan is captured and put into motion, then thoughts are erected into what was envisioned. What you prioritize is what gets done. Let’s get busy accomplishing what matters. Live life on purpose in purpose.

Shoes and Sacrifices

Nothing stands between a girl and her shoes. Unless it’s her children. Mothers around the world are being celebrated this month for their unselfish love, their sacrifices, their memory making with their little ones, their unmatched example. On this day 37 years ago, a mom had made dresses for her daughter’s wedding party including her daughter’s bridal gown. The mom was thrilled to ensure the grandeur of the ceremony by setting the tone in luxurious, custom gowns. She’d worked so thoroughly on those dresses. They were detailed and totally what her little girl had dreamt of. As she reflects on pictures from that unforgettable occasion, she’s reminded of her love and care she expressed then and continues to display. The mom dressed elegantly in a mauve dress adorned with coordinating accessories and mistakingly had forgotten to purchase her cream shoes. What is a mom to do! A woman adores her shoes. She stands tall and walks confidently in a stunning and comfortable pair of shoes. Rather than fret, this mom wore a navy pair of shoes to coordinate with her attire that screamed, “I’m the mother of the bride.” Can you imagine 37 years later, reminiscing through pictures and those shoes serve as a reminder of an act of kindness shown to the one who means the world to you!! Yes indeed, that symbol of love will forever be etched in her heart.

Moms all over the world sacrifice daily to care for their God-given miracles, their children. When a woman sacrifices her shoes, there’s no comparison of how dear her child is to her.

Sacrificial and unconditional is what I think of when I think of mothers. A mother’s love begins the moment she learns of her child in utero. A mother’s care remains no matter the maturity of her child. This mother’s selfless actions are an amazing example of how, no matter how old your child becomes you will always want what is best for your child. This month join me in celebrating moms everywhere.

Below are some memorable ways to celebrate mom: 1. Shopping spree 2. Upscale dinner 3. Spa day 4. Floral delivery 5. Netflix and chill 6. Attend church with her 6. Manicure and pedicure 7. Memorable custom jewelry 8. Photo shoot 9. Housekeeping service 10. Detail car 11. Take flowers to her gravesite (so much love to you)

The memories made cannot be stolen. Moms, as you are raising your children, you are their example of how love should be given. You are their example of how grace should be extended. Reflect on parenting moments that are special. No matter how old, no matter how tall, being a mother to your children remains always. You are the reason your children are as resilient as they are. You are the reason your children are as determined as they are. God has gifted you with unique treasures. Continue to handle the present with dignity and care. There’s no greater love, other than God’s love, than a mother’s love! What a good thing God performed when He created women with the ability to develop a craft in the image of Him! So much love to you.

Put Some Respect on My Name

Words of wisdom from the notable designer Diane Furstenburg, “I have always believed that when you have a voice, you have the obligation to empower others.”

In business and in life, your voice will empower those around you, your example will inspire those around you to sharpen their character and skills. I recall countless occasions within business and personally, I have given sound advice only for it to be unaccepted, but when someone mentioned the same thing, it was accepted and executed. I mean, the individual receiving the information acted as if it were the first time the idea was shared. Present-day, I sit back and observe the behavior of certain individuals, I am aware of the bias displayed towards others due to their elitism, professional status, experience, socioeconomic status. It bugs the heck out of me. I have come to the realization that you have to put some respect on your own name by using your voice in the most confident way, showing people your true self. Speak up and speak out and continue to do so, no matter who does not acknowledge your ideas and solutions.

From the Motivation app

Typically, one would crawl into a shell, have a pity party, murmur about not being heard or feeling overlooked. Do not allow exclusion to promote reticent behavior, which triggers you not to share your knowledge and thoughts. Be aware of feelings of isolation that attempt to overtake you mentally at the conference table. I do not know if you have ever experienced someone stealing your ideas. I am uncertain if you allow others to execute without acknowledging your ideas. Some say, it is not important, but it means something, which is why initially it is imperative to speak up about your ideas. You have a passion and a vision as well. Put some respect on your name by continuing to share your experiences, plans and solutions.

Do not let others to trample over you. Always stay ready, so you do not have to get ready in terms of your profession and other matters of life. Lengthen your posture. Speak confidently and firmly. Use eye contact. Be clear and concise. Own it and walk fiercely. You have what it takes just as much as others around you. Respect is earned and you definitely deserve it. Fear not what others may think or say because you continue to speak up and out. Take your rightful position. There’s so much inside of you awaiting to be shared with the world. Put some respect on your name. Use what you got! Someone needs to hear from you. Live life on purpose in purpose.

Rain, Sleet or Snow

Have you ever had plans and called it off due to the rain? Does the elements of life indicate your plans? Do you find yourself mentally rushing from one life event to the next? Are you experiencing life or checking off the to do list? Experiencing life meaning in touch with what’s going on around you, feeling and breathing in the moment. Are you enjoying the space that you possess? Checking off the success list meaning you are lacking enjoyment from events and/or responsibilities, you’re just showing up. Are responsibilities supposed to mentally drain you? If so, how may that be controlled?

Think about it, maybe you are dissatisfied with grocery shopping, which serves as a priority because you have to feed yourself and your family. Instead of viewing it as a task, shift your mindset and view it as solitude, enjoy the alone time down each aisle; rather than adding mental pressure knowing you loathe shopping, plan your trip with earbuds, music, audible app, for example. Responsibilities can be turned into simple enjoyment. Do not miss life’s moments. Live in every moment to the best of your ability.

Don’t forget to walk slowly and breathe.

Rain, sleet or snow, does not halt the show. Life is worth experiencing. Life is designed to create memories. Slow down. Inhale. Exhale. Write out a success list. Accept the invitation. Study for the exam. Attend the conferences. Go to the children’s play dates. Dance in the rain. Live an unforgettable moment. Besides, isn’t that why you fulfill your obligations? So much love to you all.

Nobody Cares, Work Harder

It sounds callus would you say, “Nobody Cares, Work Harder.” When was the last time you set a goal and reached the goal? When was the last time you set a goal and contemplated reaching the goal? When was the last time you encountered an obstacle while attempting to reach a goal? Did the obstacle slow you down? Did the manipulation of the obstacle make you give up? Present-day, do you see yourself stuck in the same place? Are you comfortable in this space? Do you truly want to reset and accomplish your goal? All of these questions will help self reflect on what you are serious about in terms of your life. What does it matter? Are you willing to give it all you got, no matter the circumstances?

Nobody cares, work harder. Nobody cares about the issues at hand, reach your goal. I’m sure that statement makes you cringe because you thought somebody cares. Well, let’s dissect what that truly means. Nobody indicating those in the industry, those you’re competing with no matter how you say you aren’t competing with anyone there’s always a rabbit to chase to stretch yourself to the next level in life. That happens to be a healthy thing if your mindset is positive and unreasonable. Nobody knows why you have not exceeded in the goals you have set. Nobody looks at you and says well he/she has a reason not to succeed. Life circumstances are not an excuse not to accomplish your goals. They are meant to develop your spiritual muscles. They are meant to help you bench press more. They are meant to build your endurance. I know, I know and I hear you saying, God cares. Indeed, He does. I agree that God cares that the purpose inside of you is shelved. God cares that your design has not been manifested. He is ready to bestow blessings as you unfold your gifts and abilities, He is waiting on you. When you have issues within life, which is inevitable, expect to work harder. Expect to fight and never give up. Expect challenges, mentally and physically. You will inspire so many who didn’t know nobody cares and neglects working harder. You can murmur repeatedly how life is unfair, but does that reach goals, does that break generational curses, does that set captives free from mental bondage, does that heal the land, does that motivate the somebody who seeks to work harder and win in life and love?

From the Motivation App

My mom reminds me often, Faith don’t make it easy, faith makes it possible. The late civil rights activist Frederick Douglass said, “If there is no struggle, there is no progress.” When I reflect over my accomplishments, I have always had a struggle prior to reaping the benefit. The struggle inflicted frustration, anxiety, a few tears, but never have I thought about giving up, honestly. Why am I built this way? I know without a shadow of a doubt whose I am. I have known that for quite sometime. I am peculiar. I am purposed. I understand my design. I understand what I have to do and why I have to do it? I reflect on the questions that Stacey Abrams proposes in Minority Leader, 1. What do you want? 2. Why do you want it? 3. How are you going to get it? In terms of specific desires, I ask myself these questions and they serve as accountability, in addition to my focus to be my daughters’ example in many aspects of my life. Have you ever noticed those who have a back story and arrived to their destination because they worked harder, they take it personal, they have passion, they have HEART and they are relatable? The work is most meaningful and more impactful when you have to fight to get to the starting line. Will you get to the starting line or remain on the sideline?

Nobody cares, WORK HARDER. Let it hurt your feelings or let it help you fight. As Dr. Brenda Caldwell reminded the youth at my church, “You are not only special, but you’re a specialist.” Do not allow your issues of life to become your excuses for failure and your failure is not moving you forward, but it has you stuck. Reset. Refocus. Begin again. You have so much love and expertise to give. Live life on purpose in purpose.

Happy. Hopeful. Healing.

Welcome May, the month the good Lord saw fit for me to grace my presence on Earth. As I embark upon this new year, I can honestly say that I am happy, soon to be 37 and satisfied. Who says you cannot have issues and happiness? My issues do not dictate my destination, although they may alter my mood occasionally. Thankfully, I have chosen happy and my resiliency activates in time enough to kick me back into gear.

My current state of life is hopeful and expectant of whatever the Lord has for me. Isn’t that a mighty calm place to reside! There are some things beyond my control and no matter how bad I want to win in certain areas of my life, timing has its place. Because I understand divine appointment, I am operating where I am supposed to until I am released to do so in the other spaces God has designed me to possess. I am excited about that. However, I have taken heed to what my Pastor mentioned in a sermon, “I may not be carrying my cross, but I may be reaping my crop.” Simply put, obedience begets reward, disobedience begets delay. Don’t miss it, delay, not denial. I am so glad He is merciful. Basically, the ball sometimes lies in your court. God is awaiting the moment to release the blessing(s). It is the receiver who has to act in obedience. I totally understand that. So, I have written the vision, it is so plain and clear. I know where I am going. I am excited to arrive. God has my future patterned already. It’s up to me to do what He says, so I may experience the beauty from the completed design. He’s got His hands on me.

Healing takes time. Healing sometimes require surgery and prescriptions. Currently, I am healing, mentally and physically. I am healing from grief and unspoken circumstances and I attribute my healing to my faith and fight. My faith in the Lord has gotten me this far. The fight in my soul has gotten me this far. I have decided…Easy to do? Absolutely not. Is there a tug of war? Not as often as the past. That is totally because I want to fulfill my goals and dreams in front of the ones who mean everything to me, my daughters. I am the role model. I am the example. I am powerful. I am sure about myself. I am happy. I am hopeful. I am healing.

Welcome May. The month my beautiful mind, body and soul graced planet Earth. I honor my Heavenly Father! I salute my parents! I salute ME!

I’m so busy being me, I am unbothered with anything that doesn’t concern my happiness, my hopefulness and my healing.

Fear to be Me or Free to be Me

In a world where filters are approved to post to social media, in a world where you can switch your hair and transform your appearance countless times throughout the day, in a world where you can add a voice to your story, in a world where you think before you speak, you care what people say, just be who you are because everyone else is already taken. Oftentimes, women and men fear what others see and afraid how they are perceived if they are simply themselves and because of this it prevents people from executing goals and developing healthy relationships. I say, you filter out those who do not matter when you are unapologetically yourself.

Imagine switching your true self to a faux self in every room you entered. Is that fair to who you are? Is that fair to those potential relationships that you could strengthen down the road. In my opinion, I think not. I do not think it is fair to self because you have to give yourself permission to be yourself and those who matter will gravitate to you and accept your gifts for what they are. You have to operate in your gift. Share your personality and ideas with the world.

Fear not what others may think of how you say certain things due to your lack of language or experience. Move in honesty and pureness. Speak with great pride and care. Move blissfully and truthfully, I cannot encourage this enough.

Additionally, being someone other than yourself totally misleads those who could prospectively want to establish a bond. Think about it, you meet someone new, but you withhold the true you. You continue to have encounters with this individual and you continue to withhold your daring self. What type of effect does that have on your mind? What type of impact does that have on your faux friendship? Stress at best. Stressed about the lie that you’ve been conveying. Having to live in one lie to keep up with all of the lies. Fear will corrupt a lifestyle. Fear will cripple a mind. Fear will control a destiny. Do yourself a favor and do not allow fear boss you around.

Easy to say, huh? Knowing that fear makes it’s appearance frequently and unexpectedly, here are a few action steps to use boss fear:

1. Develop a plan

2. Develop a power statement

3. Identify your people for support

4. Progress not perfection, question what you have done each day towards progress

5. Don’t stop until you get it

The goal is to fear less and move in the direction of your goals. When was the last time you were afraid to fear less and pursue your greatness be it a new love, a new career, a new appearance, a new location, a new attitude? Looking back at that experience, did you allow fear to abort the new experience or did you do it afraid? What is the worst that could have happened? Are you fearful of failure? Will you allow failure to dictate your purpose? Undoubtedly, these questions are for self reflecting when fear sets in and they will also help with taking yourself seriously, standing firm on what you desire and accomplishing it until it is granted. My prescription, be fear less and be free! Always remember to walk in purpose on purpose. So much love to you all!