Life is worth living. Life is worth risking. Life is worth experiencing. Life is worth being resilient. Life is worth sharing your journey. Life is worth overcoming. Life is worth breaking through your break downs.
There are countless blessings unspoken for because fear has crippled many people. Fear to try again. Fear to love again. Fear to live again. Fear to trust and dream again. It is all attributed to our past experiences. The decision to restrict one’s heart is understood, but it is a decision to be made whether you will remain guarded or you will 1. Do the work to get past your hurt, 2. Understand that life comes with risks that sometimes come with growing pains, 3. Know that you are worthy and enough whether it is for something or somebody.
Have you ever been in a relationship that you hoped for, that you prayed for, that you fought for and it still ended in misery, hurt, strife, just a lesson, depression, regret, loss of time? Have you ever given all of you to someone and hoped for the best and it ended for better? You must have been devastated, especially if your desire is to remain with your family. Especially if you want to grow old with this someone. Especially if you’re thinking of all of the history that’s been documented with this person. This person who you thought to give your heart, your mind and share your world with. Only to have it all shattered. Then the next someone comes along and your heart is totally guarded. This someone pours their heart out to you and the response is silent rejection, restriction because you can not release the past hurt.
I am aware that this is easier to say, but do not let that one somebody or one something rob you of the very person or thing that has come to help you recover, bounce back, live freely, love passionately and laugh until your belly aches. Do the work! Listen to your heart. Pray along the way. Understand with risk, hurt may be on the other side. Simultaneously, not taking the risk begets regrets. You will never know what’s on the other side if you do not leap. Activate your faith, talk to a trustworthy person who is connected to healthy relationships and TRUST yourself.