Courageous Sister Girl

You are strong! You are smart! You are beautiful! You can do hard things! Each morning before my girls exit the truck to go into school I affirm them with these words. They are reminded of who they are and what they are capable of. Why is that necessary every single day? Well there is so much self sabotaging that infiltrates the brain. I figured it makes sense to be the loudest voice in their heads. I figured if I plant these seeds, relentlessly they will begin to wander, why does she say this everyday? This must be true. Let me allow myself the opportunity to attempt what is more challenging and if I fail, at least I know I can do hard things so let me reset, refocus and reattempt. As a result of what is being planted, the seeds take root and in season a beautiful bloom sprouts.

“If you want something said, ask a man; if you want something done, ask a woman.”
Margaret Thatcher

During this month that has been set aside as Women’s Suffrage Month, I recall a roll call of beautiful souls who have been or are “noisey” women in our society, meaning they are making strides in their leadership, careers, relationships, parenting, and community; Cicely Tyson, Rosa Parks, Harriet Tubman, Shirley Chisholm, Marcia Fudge, Stacey Abrams, Nina Simone, Ruth Bader-Ginsberg, Gabrielle Douglas, Simone Biles, Venus and Serena Williams, Michelle Obama, Kamala Harris, Jill Biden, Laura Bush, Martha Dennis, Gloria Powell, Jennifer Dennis, Mary Payne, Melody Clark, Yvette Hughes, Helen Pruitt, Donna Doss, Rolandria Fields, Natalie Ezell, Candy Caster, Candace Kinley, Candice Miller, Courtney Cook, Kimberly Davis, Kimberly Johnson, Jessica Reed, Dr. Rutha Carr, Dr. Gwendolyn Neal, Janell Hankerson, Earlean Lyons, Pamela Helton, Jennifer Guerra, Mary Katherine Stout, Nancy Wilson, Dr. Jessica Ruffin, Tikeila Rucker, Tamera Whitelow-Watkins, Erin Do, Angela Christian, Gina Jones, Jackqueline Adams, Monecia Caston, Mary Farmer, Harmony Harlmon, Velinda Humphreys, LaToya Hughes, Lakeicha Coleman, Tamika Chatman, Forrestine Covington, Latishia Bowden, Catina Jackson, Gloria Cage, Valerie Orr, Teairra Hunter, Bridget Crutchfield, all of the incredible women of Brown Missionary Baptist Church, all of my St. Mary’s School mommy sister girlfriends, and all of my Devastating Sisters of the best sorority, Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Incorporated.

During my reflection I recognized the common thread among these ladies. The spirit of self love and compassion for others, whether exuded both qualities or either of the two, these trailblazing women are undoubtedly fierce, fabulous and the blueprint to keep in your pocket while building your life. Throughout decades, women have been overlooked in the workforce, overworked in the home, undervalued within society. Needless to say, a unified voice, perseverance and persistence has changed the trajectory of a woman’s ability to become the CEO of a company or her own company. Women, today are SHEros found maintaining a home, rearing children, loving her husband, involving herself within the ministry and the community, fighting injustices, leading in board meetings, starting businesses, and caring for herself gracefully, simultaneously.

-Margaret Thatcher, She was the longest-serving British prime minister of the 20th century and the first woman to hold that office.

Oftentimes, I have asked the question, “How does she do it all?” She does it all with style and grace. She does it all willingly and valiantly. She does it all with purpose in her heart and drive in her soul. Personally, I believe, if it is to be done, make sure there is a courageous sister girl on the team. She is focus. She is bold. She is driven. She is control. She is powerful. She is delicate. She is precious. She is necessary. She is grit. She is grace. She is faith. She is taking care of herself all while doing so. So much love to all of the Women in the world. You are strong! You are smart! You are beautiful! You can do hard things!

There’s a Blessing in the Pressing

He used his words whether, he was aware or not to be manipulative. He coaxed unknowingly or knowingly to position her heart. She desired to date. She desired to bond. She desired attention. He used his words to persuade her to move from grounded and guarded to releasing within herself what she wanted to be there, but due to fear she withheld her emotions. She did not want to be alone in feeling a connection. Because of this she truly wanted to follow his lead. She wanted to be led by a gentleman sent prayerfully from God, whether choices were made in the process that were not of God or not, she was hopeful about the current situation, the potential friendship. He used his words to soften her heart. He probably does not have a clue how he slowly worked his way through a brawny domain in her life. She’s fought to get to this place of peace. She’s been supported to unfold this space. She’s anticipated this place to desire love. She’s been reluctant about this space. He used what she preferred to believe was authenticity. He used what she wanted to accept as honesty about her to open her heart, only to uncover the truth. The truth that hurt her terribly. It hurt her terribly because of the hope that she has embraced and has contemplated sharing with him more of her heart, mind, soul.

How can a heart that was not given to someone be broken? A heart can be so bruised that it feels as if it is broken. The period of healing is rather swifter when it is bruised. She’s been broken and God has mended her, but in the process the healing heart has suffered a minor tear. It will not be much longer before it is repaired. Yes, repaired by love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control.

When Jesus was in the wilderness after fasting forty days and forty nights, he was physically tested, his ability was tempted and his faith was tempted. Needless to say, He was so weak. Satan used the word to coax Jesus to sin against God. Because Jesus had the word hidden in His heart, He was able to recognize the adversary, He was able to access and rely on the word, He was able to respond with the word. It was the word that saved Him from slipping into temptation. It was the word that caught Him before he stumbled into temptation. It was the word that resided in His heart that rescued Him when the enemy lifted his head.

Do you believe that there is an enemy who comes to abort blessings? Do you believe that there is an enemy who invites misery, doubt and fear onto your path? As a believer, our obligation lies in hiding the word in our hearts so that when things that do not concern us or should not concern us comes against us, we can recognize it and stand against it. Sometimes, the heart wants what it wants. In those times, distractions intercept the truth, which may land you in an unexpected circumstance. Although, you have goals for your career, your potential relationship, be sure that in all of your acquiring, you acquire wisdom, Proverbs 4:7.

In prayer, she could hear God saying, I have given you the word and just as he used his words, you use THE WORD. I will lift up a standard so that you will not have to fall into temptation. I am your strength. Strength like no other. Use what you got, the word of God. I did not create you to fight alone. I am your shield. I am your strong tower. I am your buckler. I am your banner. I am your creator, the one who cares about your heart. Undoubtedly, I will handle it with care. There is indeed a blessing in the pressing. Do not stop believing!

To Trust or not to Trust

Life is worth living. Life is worth risking. Life is worth experiencing. Life is worth being resilient. Life is worth sharing your journey. Life is worth overcoming. Life is worth breaking through your break downs.

There are countless blessings unspoken for because fear has crippled many people. Fear to try again. Fear to love again. Fear to live again. Fear to trust and dream again. It is all attributed to our past experiences. The decision to restrict one’s heart is understood, but it is a decision to be made whether you will remain guarded or you will 1. Do the work to get past your hurt, 2. Understand that life comes with risks that sometimes come with growing pains, 3. Know that you are worthy and enough whether it is for something or somebody.

Have you ever been in a relationship that you hoped for, that you prayed for, that you fought for and it still ended in misery, hurt, strife, just a lesson, depression, regret, loss of time? Have you ever given all of you to someone and hoped for the best and it ended for better? You must have been devastated, especially if your desire is to remain with your family. Especially if you want to grow old with this someone. Especially if you’re thinking of all of the history that’s been documented with this person. This person who you thought to give your heart, your mind and share your world with. Only to have it all shattered. Then the next someone comes along and your heart is totally guarded. This someone pours their heart out to you and the response is silent rejection, restriction because you can not release the past hurt.

I am aware that this is easier to say, but do not let that one somebody or one something rob you of the very person or thing that has come to help you recover, bounce back, live freely, love passionately and laugh until your belly aches. Do the work! Listen to your heart. Pray along the way. Understand with risk, hurt may be on the other side. Simultaneously, not taking the risk begets regrets. You will never know what’s on the other side if you do not leap. Activate your faith, talk to a trustworthy person who is connected to healthy relationships and TRUST yourself.

Do You Really Mean That?

Say what you mean and mean what you say. There lies so much regret in saying the opposite of what you mean. Have you ever thought about what you’re going to say before you say it and when it is time to say it, you did not say anything you rehearsed to say. Why is that? Why are you punking out? You know, you really wanted to tell someone what’s on your heart and mind, but you’re too afraid of how he/she may respond. Listen, you are in control of yourself. You can’t rehearse what you are going to say and then what said person will say only to get nowhere in the process. Just say what you mean and mean what you say, listen with your heart and go from there. Imagine how much mental space you occupy when you torment yourself in the preparation process before you actually go and speak with the individual. Earlier in life, there were times when I lost sleep stressing about how to tell someone something. The greatest worry was their response, perhaps rejection, or fear of their perspective towards me will change, maybe even judgment. As India Arie sings, “Just let it go and set yourself free.” Well maybe she wasn’t talking about this type of circumstance, but these words are befitting. There should come a time in one’s life when you’re able to effectively communicate your point without hesitation. Undoubtedly, implicit communication comes with life experiences which triggers wisdom; thereby, acknowledging the significance of being honest and straight forward not abrasively, but lovingly.

Have you ever been in a situation where you wanted to tell someone no, but couldn’t because of fear. We fear what folk think. We fear how folk will act towards us, as aforementioned, after we respond. I was talking to one of my homeboys about “The Art of saying NO PERIOD,” meaning no with a period on the end and his concern was the guilt that comes along with that. I encouraged him to say no with an explanation only if he feels convicted to do so maybe because the individual meant so much to him. Let’s be clear, the depth of the level of conviction depends on the quality of the relationship. So, yes I understand how you may toil with saying no, but I encouraged him to mean what he says and say what he means because at any point there’s doubt, you will easily succumb. Individuals will live their entire lives saying things obscurely, living in distress and for others rather than self. Don’t. Do. It.

From a wise mind comes wise speech; the words of the wise are persuasive. Proverbs 16:23

In the year 2021, I admonish you to be open and honest. Stop holding on to thoughts and feelings. Release them in a respectful and dignified manner. There’s no reason to be mean, remember all things in love and some things may require more firmness. Guess what, that’s ok. Make room for peace and serenity. I declare effective and clear communication in 2021. Free your mind. Some things are not as serious as we make them out to be. Stop thinking so much and say what you mean and mean what you say. So much love to you all.

Where Expectations Reside

2020 triggered a plethora of successes and areas of opportunities for many of us. My goal is always to ensure you that you aren’t alone. The focus is on progress and not perfection. As long as you are moving forward that is what counts. There are those of us who move swiftly because it is an urgency and there are those of us who are moving slower, but perpetually. Just KEEP GOING FORWARD and measure your progress and the health of the progress. The word of God tells us that the race is not given to the swift, but the one who endures until the end. I believe that. I will say I do not want to be left behind though. Haha! I am extremely grateful for the circle of positive and goal oriented souls that I am privileged to work with, live with, do ministry with and so forth.

May 2016, I resigned from my position as a professional school counselor with Shelby County Schools and that has been the best life move ever because that career was a thief of joy for countless reasons. I have since been building a financial services organization with the best in the industry targeting financial independence within the middle income market. The need remains there, the excitement is exhilarating, educating about principles that are uncommon in the community around me is life changing for myself and other families and I am purposed and blessed to be a part of this crusade that releases those from their current financial circumstances into a world of freedom and financial peace.

2020 for many of us dealt a hand of loss, depression and stress, which is so unfortunate. Undoubtedly, the reason why our theme for New Year’s Eve church service is RESET. Know that you are not alone. I know it seems like sometimes the walls are enclosing, there’s more despair than hope, calamity all around, injustices seem unbearable and no relief in sight. My advice, plan your work, work your plan, use your resources, ask for help until you get what you need, and don’t stop praying.

Beneath are my strengths and areas of opportunities for 2020. Though there be areas of opportunities, I am thankful for a year of progress. 2021, I will work on my turn around time being swifter, my persistence and perseverance, attend more Broadway productions (once Covid permits), attend art and trunk shows (once Covid permits), study more history, work in my foundation, volunteer more with my church, live in the moment, love unapologetically and laugh until my stomach aches.

🔥Decluttered, and finished decorating my home finally

🔥Joined the greeters ministry, appointed captain of virtual greeters ministry

🔥Increased my giving for missions and tithe

🔥Saved over XXX in an investment and set up a Roth IRA

🔥My team and I helped countless families with life insurance and investments

🔥Began taking control of my eating habits and workout habits for a healthier lifestyle

🔥Started an operative foundation in memory of my husband, Mr. Cleo T. Hudson, Jr.

🔥Started a life changing blog about all things on my heart

🔥Purchased and read more books to self improve and raise my self awareness about social injustices and history

🔥Made a concrete decision that I am ready for love and preparing myself for who’s to come by self improving and enjoying being alone

🔥Failed my investment exam AGAIN (life is GOOD, BUT here’s what’s always on my mind in case you’re on the outside looking in and think my life is perfect outside of becoming a widow at 33 years old and seeing my children hurt due to the loss of dad when they were 7 and 2 years old)

🔥A lot of self reflecting, which prompts adjustments

This picture depicts a soul who has a will to LIVE, LOVE, and LAUGH until my face hurts!

In life comes successes and chances to refocus and reset, which will it be? You can make all of the plans in the world. The Lord’s plans prevail. He has your best interest at heart.

I can not tell you how delighted and ecstatic I am about 2021. There is so much in store. Go. Get. Your. Blessing. Live life on purpose in purpose. Cheers to 2021! Let’s go where expectations resides! The expectations that you have set for yourself and for your family. So much love to you all.

eNOtions.

The notion of NO infuses so much emotion. Why is so much emotion tied to the answer, “No?” Think about your feelings that spark when you say, “No.” Why do you question yourself when you say it? Why do you feel guilty? Why do you have an explanation after saying it? Why are you thinking about how others view you when you say it? Anxiety sparks inside of me every time I say no. Oftentimes, I am hoping the person is not thinking that I am being mean. Undoubtedly, if I had multiple hands and feet, an abundance of energy and wealth I willingly would say yes all of the time. Maybe not you, but I would. I can recall a few times when I have hesitated about certain responses because I did not want to say no. Honestly, it helps to go ahead and respond so that person won’t think you’re being mean and dodging him/her.When I think about it, saying no liberates me from obligations that would possibly leave me juggling around priorities or doing something I know was within the budget or on the agenda.

There’s power in your voice. You will not lose a friend. No one will think negative of you.

For example, if I say yes to a friend who asks me to do something on a particular day that is filled with amass of responsibilities, I may stress throughout the day until I have completed all of the day’s task. Days filled in moderation do not elicit as much stress. You know how you prioritize your day, then add to it and you end up thinking about how relieved you will feel once you have conquered the day. I can recall a time when I had to be home for a delivery, be at an appointment immediately afterwards and accepted the call to help a friend. Now it was not a life or death situation. I could have responded, “No.” However, I said yes. It was a selfless act, I understand that. Undoubtedly, I don’t mind helping, but my point is at some point no has to be an answer and it is ok. Your friendship should not be questioned. You don’t have to allow it to linger in your mind. You do not have to call your friend days later and continue to explain why you said no. It is ok to say no when necessary. Let your no be no and your yes be yes.

A friend of mine always talks about how she helps others. Most days, she does not put herself first. The reaction behind that elicits a relief for the person being helped, but for the one rendering the service not so much. So what are you thinking when someone that you know cares so much about you says, “No?” What is your reaction? Do you negotiate? Do you wonder why the answer is no? Do you figure out another way instantly? Does that make you think twice the next time you ask them for something?

Save yourself the grief and let your no be no.

Protect your peace. Do not add stress. You don’t have to always explain because if you do, people will always expect an explanation. If someone wants to know why your answer is no then he/she may ask. I want to be clear, NO is an answer. You can stand firm on no and you don’t have to live with guilt. Do what you’re able and capable of doing. Explain if you feel led to do so. Free your mind. Live humbly. Love intensely. Laugh uncontrollably. So much love to you all.

Fail forward

There are countless folk desiring to start a business, leap into that love relationship, have a baby, learn a new hobby, master a trade, BUT, there’s a BIG BUT! I remember one day after chapel at my daughters’ school, I was talking to a mommy friend about an exam that I have yet to pass. Additionally, I shared with her my vision and she replied, “You know Rekeshia the older I become I ask myself, what the hell am I so afraid of?” It was at that moment that I realized most times when taking a leap, one must DO IT AFRAID. What is there to lose? Think about it, if you never try, you won’t ever know what could potentially happen. Think of it this way, if you attempt and fail, do what I have mastered so well, FAIL FORWARD. What does that mean? I have decided to WIN. In doing so, I will do whatever it takes, morally correct, even if it means taking what seems like forever to the critics and onlookers. I have decided to be the girl who goes for it. When I concretely declare my goals and obstacles act as barriers, initially, there’s a bit of frustration. Consciously, I ground my thinking, I affirm myself, I reflect on my goals and purpose and move in faith. Sometimes I move a little slower because fear sets in, but I have to tell myself if not now then when, if not me then who; especially if I know I have been called to begin the task and follow through with it.

Struggles build your spiritual muscles. Come struggles, come wisdom. Wise up and rise up!

Often time people are paralyzed with the idea of failure. The mind will prevent you from moving forward on that success list. The mind will talk you out of doing what you feel passionate about if you aren’t careful. Take control of your thoughts. Boss back that negative talk. Get a song in your heart. Begin and don’t wait on perfect conditions to do so.

People believe that if they begin working on their goals and the plans don’t work out accordingly then it’s failure. Let me be the first to tell you that it isn’t failure until you quit. Every expert was once a beginner and believe me I have failed at enough to know how much more I learn from those experiences. One more positive way to view failing is a delayed learning experience. The goal is delayed in order to sharpen self for the purpose of the responsibility that lies ahead. It could be more massive than you anticipate. This is surely where patience and regulated emotions need to be checked. Sometimes it could be a lesson in patience, humility, perseverance, love, God will be glorified from the journey.

Do not let that thought of defeat prevent you from moving in purpose on purpose. A few things that I encourage you to do in order to move forward include; 1. Pray for clarity and vision 2. Write your vision in a journal 3. Connect with an accountability partner for wise counsel 4. Ask yourself each day, “What was my win for today? What did I do today towards my goal(s)?” 5. Stay committed and consistent.

Above all, you have the power to move from where you are and change your situation. You are what you eat. Feed yourself with the right thinking, clear thinking, positive thinking. Understand that where you are now is not where you have to stay. There’s always room for self improvement. You would be surprised at the many sisters and/or brothers who are watching your life. You’re someone’s quiet inspiration. You’re someone’s hope. Now, I admonish you to “Go and Do it Afraid!” So much love to you all!

Intentional, Compassionate, Understanding (ICU)

That which comes from the heart reaches the heart. Treat others the way you want to be treated. In all your getting, get an understanding.

This past Sunday my Pastor’s sermon topic was “Improve your Family.” It begins with ME. From the message the acronym ICU was used to illustrate the stance that one should take in improving the family unit. Family support means everything. Family bonding means so much. Family ties are burden lifters.

My maternal grandmother passed away June 2014 and boy did we learn what we pretty much knew. She was the earthly cornerstone of our family. She was our rock. She was everything to us. Her heart was pure and she was the epitome of love and truth. She displayed to us how family should love and cherish one another, but somehow when she passed away there was some sort of disconnect due to our hurt from her loss. We just couldn’t seem to find our way back together. It was an awkward feeling being at family dinners. My eldest uncle finally said one afternoon before our family prayer, “I don’t care if it’s a handful that shows up to dinner, we will have it every month.” To his point, we had dinner every month pre C-19 and our love ones began to show up consistently and eventually with a better spirit and attitude towards one another.

It is when that one someone DECIDES and INFLUENCES the group to follow for the benefit of all that change happens and bonds are rekindled authentically. I know so well how life is short and at that moment my uncle expressed much of what I know my grandma was thinking, “A family that prays together, stays together.” Being intentional means to do it with all of your heart, mind and soul, withholding nothing. Whatever it is that you’re working at, do it as if you’re doing it for the Lord. Be intentional, be authentic, be in tune with all of your senses. Make it meaningful and don’t miss the moment.


Compassion is a matter of the heart. Its expressing concern and care for someone and doing your part to ease the feeling. We live in a world where people are going through various issues, coming out of issues or heading into an unexpected circumstance. Those matters could be relative to marriage, divorce, grief, career confusion, failed business, wayward children, self image, insecurity, uncertainty, financial crisis, to name a few. Compassion for your fellow neighbor may seem small, but it goes so far. Have you ever been in your feelings because something was not going your way and so you took it out on whatever that bad habit may have been and decided to put a yield on everything you were supposed to do and then that thing that you had been emotional about was not what you thought after all and so you decided to carry on as you should before you decided not to when you were in your feelings? Whew!!! That was a mouthful and provoked a lot of thought in order to gain an understanding. I know, but it is a prime example why compassion is important. People are walking around with the world on their mind and saying they are ok. That’s a lie. They are not ok. Be gentle with people. Smile. Choose your words wisely. Listen sincerely.

As you’re showing compassion, be sure that you are understanding and not so judgmental. Do you believe that love conquers all? Are you afraid that if you’re understanding that you agree with a person’s choice? Think about this, you may not agree with everything a love one does, but if you’re honestly, attempting to gain understanding, you never know how that strengthens the trust factor; thereby, giving you an opportunity to bond more and let your light shine. It is through the light that darkness is overpowered. It is through sincerity that phoniness becomes discomfort. In other words, if you’re the light and you’re understanding and not judgmental, there lies the self improvement that was sought after. Improving your circle begins with improving yourself. Who’s all in? So much love to you all!

Patience and Emotions

In everything with prayer and supplication, present your request to God and the peace of God will transcend all understanding. What does this truly mean? Pray about everything, worry about nothing, live in peace and wait patiently to receive. As the saying goes, “It’s the patience for me.” Ha! Seriously, I have a few things before the Lord that has me perplexed in His response at the moment. Undoubtedly, what continues to have me grounded is God’s track record. He’s no shorter than His word.

In the meantime, what should I do? Well, what do you do when you’re awaiting the manifestation of God’s promise? Currently, I am in this state. I am serving, praying and listening. I am serving my community by connecting and praying regularly with Moms in Prayer through my daughters’ school, leading the Virtual Greeters Ministry at Brown Missionary Baptist Church, leading the Life Prep New Members Arm at BMBC, assisting within the Economic Development Committee of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Incorporated, establishing groundwork and raising funds for my foundation, The Cleo T. Hudson, Jr. Memorial Foundation, sharpening my financial literacy skill set within my business as I continue to educate the community on how money works, training up my sweet daughters to become the best little ladies that they have been called to be, being as accessible to humankind as possible, just to mention a few. I am praying the Lord’s will. Lord knows I pray that these two things are His will. Hahahaha! Lastly, I am still enough to hear His voice and harken to what He says. If that isn’t enough to help me stay progressive. Unfortunately, it keeps me physically busy, but my mind is still emotionally tied to two things in particular that would make my life even more joyful. Yet, patience and emotions remain an intricate trait when it comes to progress. Otherwise, the blessing will be aborted and I’ve come too far to let that be so.

“If there is no struggle, there is no progress.” -Frederick Douglass

Mostly I handle my emotions through the use of affirmations and within the last month I have began working out at the gym and eating the proper meals. Additionally, I rewrite what God has told me so that in times of vulnerability and anxiousness, I am reminded why I should control my emotions and be patient. One thing I know, God is faithful. Ask yourself this question, “Can all of your worries add a single moment to your life?” In all of your thinking about your future, do not forget to live in the moment, laugh aloud, love with all of your heart. Take the risk. Live by faith. Do good to others. So much love to you all!

Always a wife

Wife defined as a help meet, lover, friend, home maker, peace to a storm, calm to a rage, problem solver, nurturer. December 13, 2017, I woke up a wife and cried myself to sleep as a widow.

January 2000, my late husband and I began to date as a result of courting for a short period of time. We dated until June 2007 and then we were married. We moved into our home September 2007 and life as we knew it sparked ups and downs and turnarounds. Just as with many things there was a lot of growing pains and then smooth sailing. So, as you can see I’ve always been a wife, even as a girlfriend, I had wife tendencies. What does that mean? I wanted him, I loved him, I cared for him, I sacrificed for him, I was comfortable with him, it was a natural connection, it was a decision for better or for worse.

I was sitting here yesterday and said to myself, “I’m still a wife.” I know that sounds crazy, but I have been called to marriage. Believe it or not, it isn’t only because I don’t want to burn. Hahaha, for those of you who listened to Pastor Orr’s message about singleness. I honestly have so much to share with a companion and there is so much I have to learn from a companion.

I am still a wife, I still have a lot to offer, I still have so much love to give. I still have so much nurturing and caring to do. I am still a wife and honestly after October 2019, I woke up and realized that I am worthy of another shot at sharing my world with someone truly special. I anticipate the moment that God gives me solely to my soul mate, yes soul mate. I believe that sprits connect. I believe in intuition and when you know, you just know. If you knew the beginning stages of how Cleo, my late husband and I connected then you’d understand what I mean. I will write about that at some point. I believe in divine appointments. So, yes, I am still a wife and I will continue to carry myself as such (minus the sex, lol).

The days seems long throughout this process. Sometimes it seems like an endless road. I am however focused on becoming a better me which helps me become a better wife. The race isn’t given to the swift, but to the one who endures until the end. Scripture says, “He that findeth a wife, findeth a good thing.” One thing I have never doubted is being a good thing. Wherever he may be, he will be a blessed man. So, again, yes, I am still a wife. I am delighted to be just that. So much love to you all!

“When you come to the understanding that everything you want can be created through your mind, through the use of right thinking, which is simply clear thinking, you come to the realization that only you can give yourself what you want.”
-Dr. Robert Anthony