Fail forward

There are countless folk desiring to start a business, leap into that love relationship, have a baby, learn a new hobby, master a trade, BUT, there’s a BIG BUT! I remember one day after chapel at my daughters’ school, I was talking to a mommy friend about an exam that I have yet to pass. Additionally, I shared with her my vision and she replied, “You know Rekeshia the older I become I ask myself, what the hell am I so afraid of?” It was at that moment that I realized most times when taking a leap, one must DO IT AFRAID. What is there to lose? Think about it, if you never try, you won’t ever know what could potentially happen. Think of it this way, if you attempt and fail, do what I have mastered so well, FAIL FORWARD. What does that mean? I have decided to WIN. In doing so, I will do whatever it takes, morally correct, even if it means taking what seems like forever to the critics and onlookers. I have decided to be the girl who goes for it. When I concretely declare my goals and obstacles act as barriers, initially, there’s a bit of frustration. Consciously, I ground my thinking, I affirm myself, I reflect on my goals and purpose and move in faith. Sometimes I move a little slower because fear sets in, but I have to tell myself if not now then when, if not me then who; especially if I know I have been called to begin the task and follow through with it.

Often time people are paralyzed with the idea of failure. The mind will prevent you from moving forward on that success list. The mind will talk you out of doing what you feel passionate about if you aren’t careful. Take control of your thoughts. Boss back that negative talk. Get a song in your heart. Begin and don’t wait on perfect conditions to do so.

People believe that if they begin working on their goals and the plans don’t work out accordingly then it’s failure. Let me be the first to tell you that it isn’t failure until you quit. Every expert was once a beginner and believe me I have failed at enough to know how much more I learn from those experiences. One more positive way to view failing is a delayed learning experience. The goal is delayed in order to sharpen self for the purpose of the responsibility that lies ahead. It could be more massive than you anticipate. This is surely where patience and regulated emotions need to be checked. Sometimes it could be a lesson in patience, humility, perseverance, love, God will be glorified from the journey.

Do not let that thought of defeat prevent you from moving in purpose on purpose. A few things that I encourage you to do in order to move forward include; 1. Pray for clarity and vision 2. Write your vision in a journal 3. Connect with an accountability partner for wise counsel 4. Ask yourself each day, “What was my win for today? What did I do today towards my goal(s)?” 5. Stay committed and consistent.

Above all, you have the power to move from where you are and change your situation. You are what you eat. Feed yourself with the right thinking, clear thinking, positive thinking. Understand that where you are now is not where you have to stay. There’s always room for self improvement. You would be surprised at the many sisters and/or brothers who are watching your life. You’re someone’s quiet inspiration. You’re someone’s hope. Now, I admonish you to “Go and Do it Afraid!” So much love to you all!